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Interpersonal Manipulation & Heroes
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Welcome! This forum is about interpersonal manipulation (especially in its extreme forms) and also about how we are all the hero of our own stories, our own lives.

Highly manipulative relationships and groups include battering relationships, cults, and many others which are more subtle and therefore harder to spot. Being a healthy hero is centered on the opposite -- becoming as autonomous as possible and endorsing the autonomy of others.

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Subject:   Re: What do I do?
Name:   Beth
Date Posted:   Feb 11, 08 - 9:31 AM
Website:   http://www.beth-peterson.com
Message:   Bottom line, Confused, is that you are an individual. Yes, marriage is a partnership, and as partners we do things together. But good partners also know that people, including their spouses, need time alone or with other people.

Jealousy is NOT a sign of love. Jealousy is completely based in insecurity.

Healthy marriages are based on two individuals who are invested in being honest with themselves first (including being honest with themselves about the tough stuff), and then being honest with their spouse. When one -- or both -- partners are NOT invested in being honest, the marriage cannot be the full, complete, and healthy marriage it could be.

The more dishonest one or both spouses are, the more destructive the marriage becomes.

Hope this helps!
Beth
Replies:    
Re: Re: What do I do? by Confused · Mar 2, 08 - 8:08 PM
Re: What do I do? by Beth · Mar 3, 08 - 7:41 AM
Re: What do I do? by Confused · Mar 3, 08 - 11:38 AM
Re: Re: What do I do? by Beth · Mar 4, 08 - 1:35 PM
Re: Re: Re: What do I do? by Confused · Mar 11, 08 - 7:21 AM
Re: What do I do? by Beth · Mar 11, 08 - 8:09 AM
Re: Re: What do I do? by Confused · Mar 14, 08 - 6:57 AM


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