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Welcome! This forum is about interpersonal manipulation (especially in its extreme forms) and also about how we are all the hero of our own stories, our own lives.

Highly manipulative relationships and groups include battering relationships, cults, and many others which are more subtle and therefore harder to spot. Being a healthy hero is centered on the opposite -- becoming as autonomous as possible and endorsing the autonomy of others.

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Subject:   Re: Re: What do I do?
Name:   Confused
Date Posted:   Feb 6, 08 - 9:54 AM
Message:   Hi Beth,

That is what I have been told also by my friends and family, that it's not healthy. We have seen a marriage counselor..but the counselor left for another firm back in July and haven't seen one since. We have an appointment scheduled for this saturday but my husband isn't thrilled with going becuase he doesn't want to "start from scratch" with a new counselor.

I actually was invited by one of my best friends to join her in Hawaii (for a few days) in about a month and I was VERY excited about that. However, my husband became angry over it (because it would just be me and my 2 girlfriends) and told me that he does NOT want me going...that that is where we had our honeymoon and how could i even "THINK about doing that" to him....etc. Yet he isn't planning a trip for just the 2 of us for this year...but instead plans vacations with me AND his kids. Do you think is wrong for me to want to get away to somewhere warm during cold winter months with 2 of my best friends who make me feel so good about myself?

Thank you for the information....as he wants me to do him "favors" with his kids by taking them to practice or picking them up, what have you, but it's not my place or whatever to have the right to make decisions. I think that is totally wrong and we should be a 50/50 marriage...and that means with everything involving it including his kids!

THanks,
Confused
Replies:    
Re: What do I do? by Beth · Feb 11, 08 - 9:31 AM
Re: Re: What do I do? by Confused · Mar 2, 08 - 8:08 PM
Re: What do I do? by Beth · Mar 3, 08 - 7:41 AM
Re: What do I do? by Confused · Mar 3, 08 - 11:38 AM
Re: Re: What do I do? by Beth · Mar 4, 08 - 1:35 PM
Re: Re: Re: What do I do? by Confused · Mar 11, 08 - 7:21 AM
Re: What do I do? by Beth · Mar 11, 08 - 8:09 AM
Re: Re: What do I do? by Confused · Mar 14, 08 - 6:57 AM


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