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Interpersonal Manipulation & Heroes
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Welcome! This forum is about interpersonal manipulation (especially in its extreme forms) and also about how we are all the hero of our own stories, our own lives.

Highly manipulative relationships and groups include battering relationships, cults, and many others which are more subtle and therefore harder to spot. Being a healthy hero is centered on the opposite -- becoming as autonomous as possible and endorsing the autonomy of others.

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Subject:   Re: What do I do?
Name:   Beth
Date Posted:   Feb 5, 08 - 10:50 AM
Website:   http://www.beth-peterson.com
Message:   Dear Confused,

From what you have said, your situation is definitely not healthy for you. Have you sought marriage counseling? What would happen if you went for counseling by yourself? If you asked him to go with you?

Do not allow yourself to be isolated away from people who support and encourage you. Make time to have time with friends and family, especially those who make you feel good about being who you are.

If you feel that your husband is manipulating you, find the space and the time where you can really explore who you are, your beliefs, your attitudes, and how much responsibility you take for things that you aren't really able to control. You may need to rebuild (or build for the first time) your own personal boundaries... that fence that we need to put into place that says "This is me and that is you, and I am not responsible for the choices you make."

Hope this helps,
Beth
Replies:    
Re: Re: What do I do? by Confused · Feb 6, 08 - 9:54 AM
Re: What do I do? by Beth · Feb 11, 08 - 9:31 AM
Re: Re: What do I do? by Confused · Mar 2, 08 - 8:08 PM
Re: What do I do? by Beth · Mar 3, 08 - 7:41 AM
Re: What do I do? by Confused · Mar 3, 08 - 11:38 AM
Re: Re: What do I do? by Beth · Mar 4, 08 - 1:35 PM
Re: Re: Re: What do I do? by Confused · Mar 11, 08 - 7:21 AM
Re: What do I do? by Beth · Mar 11, 08 - 8:09 AM
Re: Re: What do I do? by Confused · Mar 14, 08 - 6:57 AM


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