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Interpersonal Manipulation & Heroes
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Welcome! This forum is about interpersonal manipulation (especially in its extreme forms) and also about how we are all the hero of our own stories, our own lives.

Highly manipulative relationships and groups include battering relationships, cults, and many others which are more subtle and therefore harder to spot. Being a healthy hero is centered on the opposite -- becoming as autonomous as possible and endorsing the autonomy of others.

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Subject:   Re: Relationships & the Web
Name:   Beth
Date Posted:   Aug 16, 06 - 6:49 PM
Website:   http://www.beth-young.com
Message:   You said you "feel like the 'crazy wife'", Peryll... How apt that description is! One of the things some of my counselor friends and I say is that manipulative and dysfunctional relationships like the one you are in are crazy-making.

Not that you, the focus of the manipulation is crazy.... It is that manipulation like this spins normal people in circles so hard and is so off-kilter from normalacy that we *feel* like we're going crazy.

It is crazy-making because it has no stability. It discounts reality, what you have experienced, what you know to be true. You cannot win because he'll shift reality and truth to "prove" you are the one at fault. No matter what you do, you are ****ed.

Peryll, have you made an exit plan? Sane people cannot stay in situations like this and remain healthy emotionally, mentally, and often times physically. For your own sake, you need to seriously consider your future and what it means to remain in this relationship.

And please know that you are not alone. There are untold thousands of people, just like you, who have gone through this same thing. Some of us are here. And no, you are not crazy.
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Re: Re: Relationships & the Web by peryll · Aug 22, 06 - 4:14 PM
Re: Relationships & the Web by Beth · Aug 22, 06 - 8:05 PM
Re: Re: Relationships & the Web by peryll · Aug 24, 06 - 8:29 AM


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