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Interpersonal Manipulation & Heroes
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Welcome! This forum is about interpersonal manipulation (especially in its extreme forms) and also about how we are all the hero of our own stories, our own lives.

Highly manipulative relationships and groups include battering relationships, cults, and many others which are more subtle and therefore harder to spot. Being a healthy hero is centered on the opposite -- becoming as autonomous as possible and endorsing the autonomy of others.

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Subject:   Re: new drama
Name:   Beth
Date Posted:   Apr 10, 06 - 1:20 PM
Website:   http://www.beth-young.com
Message:   Yes, Cory, she would be a miserable person…if she were connected to herself. People like this, though, don’t tend to really be able to be sure of their own existence – they prove their existence by making other people around them react (making *them* -- the other people -- miserable).

Do not try to make someone like Jennifer make sense. (They do in a way, but only after you have unraveled miles and miles of twisted thoughts and perceptions, and have come to understand the nature of lies.) And because she has so twisted so many things for Kevin … definitions, concepts, perception … it will take an awful lot for him to break free, as well.

*sigh* I am sorry that he was not able to break free this time. You did well; you did what you needed to and you told him things that he needed to hear. Both the sadness and the relief are normal and natural reactions. They are indeed a known part of every grieving process. And this return to his abuser is indeed full of grief for those who care for him. Your anger, as well, is normal and natural.

My thoughts and prayers do go out to you, your family, and Kevin. At this point, do what you can to strengthen you and your family...help yourself and each other regain any stability or other ground that may have been lost through this latest plunge on the rollercoaster. Let tomorrow's problems wait for tomorrow.
   


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